L.A. Plume answers your questions about entertaining, etiquette, and manners in the modern world.
Some Mouthy Issues
Written by L.A. Plume
Tuesday, 13 August 2013 15:24
Dear Ms. Plume, I have an issue with a friend who talks incessantly and with her mouth full of food. I don't want to see that food once it leaves her plate - in her mouth, or spittled out around her face. Is there any way to politely suggest she finish chewing and then continue the conversation? Whatever she has to say is not so earth-shattering that it can't wait. Help, please. Ginny
Dear Ms. Plume, Will your work never be done? Friends of many years recently used my apartment in the city. They proudly told me they had rearranged my furniture for me and purchased a toaster. But I liked my furniture where it was and I never eat toast. On my next visit to the city I put the furniture back where it belongs. They did ask if they might use the apartment again but I have forgotten to reply. Mr. X
Dear L. A. Plume, I'm fond of going out and listening to all the wonderful music we have around Beaufort, and I've noticed that the musicians all have tip jars. What is the protocol for tipping them? Aren't they paid by the establishments where they play? How much of a tip is appropriate? Betsey
I recently went on a road trip with a friend; we were invited to stay at her mother's beach house for a few days along the way. I had never met her mother but her house was in a beautiful, exclusive enclave, and, best of all - it was free!
Dear L. A. Plume, I received an email invitation to a party. I'm a single person and the invitation doesn't contain information about whether or not I can/should bring a guest. Should I just assume that I can, or do I ask the hosts? Kendra